My Angel Darlings,

our baby newsletter is 2 months old today <3 can you guys believe that!!

according to google ai -

At 2 months, babies typically start to lift their heads briefly when on their tummy, begin to track moving objects with their eyes, and make cooing sounds, while also showing increased social engagement with smiling and making eye contact. 

cooing sounds, eye contact and increased social engagement - sounds like me when i’m off a few martiniiiiiiiiiiissss am I right?? anyways

which speaking of babies - my titkotk fyp has been exclusively baby content as of late - I would guess as a result of my engagement with that blonde mom who does the long chats with her baby about what they are doing day to to day. do you guys know what i’m talking about? and they’re getting ready to move to California or something like that? anyways

you guys are gorgeous coparents to our child! I mean it too!!

I have my bachelors degree in psychology. I took an infant development class in school that focused on the development of the brain in the womb through to like years 0-2 or something. FASCINATING class - I was mind blow every single day.

Of course I was one of only maybe three men in that class. and probably the only straight one. the world we live in I guess :/

SONG OF THE WEEK

The song of the week is to be listened to in the background while you read the newsletter! I have a Spotify playlist that will serve as a database of every song of the week :)

I have held Alice Phoebe Lou close to my heart for a while.

I once made a tiktok where I spoke to the saying “out of sight out of mind” and how I find it ironic that in reality - the very OPPOSITE OF THE SAYING IS TRUE. for me at least. meaning - things that are out of sight, i’m completely enraptured by.

WELL I got the idea to make that video from Alice Phoebe Lou’s Only When I. A song where she contemplates the yearning and desire she feels for a passing relationship but only when she’s in moments of…. longing for lack of a better term.

I like that she sounds like she’s underwater. I like the yearning you can hear in her voice. I like that it sounds like a lullaby - a dream - a state of mind that she can see herself still with this person.

Only When I is from Alice’s 2021 album Glow. I highly recommend you all listen to the album (her entire discography for that matter) if you have the chance.

she entirely self funds the creation of all of her work. I love her.

AFFIRMATION OF THE WEEK

Please read this aloud no matter your location or surroundings:

✨ I REFUSE TO MISTAKE WISHFUL THINKING FOR REALITY - I SEE PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE , NOT WHO I WANT THEM TO BE ✨

✨ I LET GO OF EXPECTATIONS AND EMBRACE WHAT IS - PEACE COMES FROM ACCEPTANCE, NOT CONTROL✨

Expectations Are Resentments In The Making has long been my guiding principle. this idea that when we expect people or things or experiences to be a certain way and they don’t turn out to be the way we expected we resent them. and that is not healthy.

the opposite is also true - when people expect us to be a certain way, and we are not that way, they resent us for that. but we should not have to shoulder the weight of their expectations. We remind ourselves that the expectation they projected on to us is not our doing - thus the resulting resentment is not our cross to bear.

BUT - we should ALWAYS have standards. there is difference between standards and expectations…. standards are grounded in reality. expectations are delusions.

when someone tells you they are going to pick you up at 5 - you EXPECT them to pick you up in a manor that is timely to that. see that is having standards. that is not an expectation

holy shit i’m giving myself goof bumps. this is some prophetic ass shit.

anyways - :) how are you guys by the way? i’m working on this in bed and it’s really windy and stormy outside. kind of got my ass on edge? kisses.

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

there are two videos of the week this week - Emma posted again so I felt obligated to share that here.

Last week I pleaded for some1 to provide me with insight on Emma and Tucker’s breakup. A very sweet subscriber - Clara - provided me this link. every1 say thank you Clara.

thank you Clara.

he was very vulnerable - but still drew the privacy line. I appreciated this interview a lot. I love tucker.

UPDATE OF THE WEEK!!!

Bobbie Goods is back in stock!!!! when I posted that video with Abbie (ms. bobbie goods) I got infinity messages and comments asking when they would restock books. they are finally here!!! i’m so proud of her!!

she doesn’t know I’m writing about this/didn’t ask me to of course. she’s a fuggin entrepreneur she doesn’t need my help. but - they are truly the most fun and relaxing activity ever cross my heart. needle in my eye all that jazz.

the markers I use are so unbelievably expensive. it’s oppressive. I was recently enlightened as to the expenses teachers face. they have to pay that shit out of pocket just to give our kids an enriching education. scary. But I figured Id link them here.

One of those things where they are worth the money to me at least. they are like magic. they meld to the lines of the drawing it’s nuts.

here is a really sweet pic of me and Abbie in her office!

HENRY’S ADVICE COLUMN <3

As mentioned in last weeks newsletter - I will be recording a YouTube digital mp4 long form video version of henry’s advice column every OTHER week <3 and on the off weeks (like this one) I will respond to a submission by typography keyboard handwritten format.

HOWEVER - this week I was hoping to ask YOU guys for advice if that’s ok with everyone? I’m hoping some of you might have thoughts that you could get back to me with <3 and maybe next week I’ll share some of the responses I get incase you guys are interested. ok here I go - gonna be like vulnerable or whatever with you guys:

I would love some advice/guidance from you guys on how you prevent yourself from getting in your own way when everything is going well for you?

Like - what I mean by this is how do you not doubt yourself when things are working out for you. I guess it’s similar to imposter syndrome in a way.

in life I feel like we are so trained to be doom and gloom and brace for the worst - but when things are going super well and your hard work pays off we don’t naturally accept it to be the truth? isn’t that so strange? maybe it’s just me who feels like that.

anyways - if any of you have advice on how to accept the good things that come to you and not let yourself downplay it all I would love to hear what you have to say.

your input means the world to me!

email me or respond to this newsletter with what you need advice on and i’ll provide my thoughts in future weeks ❤️ 

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I hope you guys have a great weekend - get drunk - why not?? unless that’s not your thing.

then you should get drunk off doing whatever it is you love.

I love having a cold beer. with my friends. and laughing. and then drinking another cold beer.

sue me.

I’ll see you guys next week <3

Yours alwaysalwaysalwaysalways,

Henry